In an emergency call 999 or tell the police about your situation by calling the 101 non-emergency number.
- you are not to blame
- you are not alone
- you can get your life back
Personal Safety Plan
You won’t be able to stop your partner’s abuse but creating a Personal Safety Plan can help in times of crisis. A plan can help you think about the steps you can take to stay safe if you're a victim of abuse.
Helping someone you know
While it’s upsetting to see someone you know being abused there are basic steps you can follow to provide support:
If you’re supporting someone you could try saying the following:
- ‘It’s wrong and it’s not your fault - no one deserves to fear domestic abuse ’
- ‘If you want, you can leave now, whether it’s for a break or for good - there are places of refuge you can go where you’ll be safe, or you can stay with a friend or relative’
Help if you are hurting someone you love
If you are hurting someone you love visit the Respect website or call 0808 802 4040. Respect provides confidential advice that can help you change your behaviour and develop a positive relationship.
Many people spend a considerable amount of time providing unpaid care for a family member or partner who is ill, frail, disabled or has mental health or substance misuse problems. While unpaid carers do an admirable job there's sometimes a risk of carers causing harm.
Often this harm is unintentional and can arise from a lack of coping skills or stress. If abuse is directed towards one person, in a careful and planned way that leaves the victim feeling controlled and powerless then it’s considered domestic abuse. If you are struggling to cope as a carer you can discuss this with an adult social care or health professional.