Break tasks into simple steps
Teach self-care tasks by breaking them down into small, manageable steps. For example, when teaching handwashing, guide your child through turning on the tap, wetting hands, applying soap, and rinsing. Gradual instruction makes learning more achievable.
Use visual or verbal prompts
Use picture cards or verbal cues to remind your child of the steps in daily routines, like brushing teeth or getting dressed. Visual or verbal reminders help them remember what to do next and build independence.
Encourage self-feeding
Allow your child to feed themselves with easy-to-hold utensils or finger foods. Start with meals that are less messy and gradually increase the difficulty. This promotes:
- motor skills
- hand-eye coordination
- independence in eating.
Create accessible spaces
Arrange your home so that essential items like clothes, shoes, and toys are within your child’s reach. This allows them to practice independent dressing, choosing toys, or getting ready, without always relying on an adult.
Offer limited choices
Provide your child with two or three simple choices, like which clothes to wear or what snack to have. This empowers them to make decisions, fostering independence and boosting confidence in self-care activities.
Model and narrate self-care
Show them self-care tasks, such as brushing teeth or washing hands, while speaking each step aloud. Children learn by watching and imitating, and your clear verbal guidance will help them understand how to do things.
Allow time for practice
Give your child extra time to practice self-care skills, even if it takes longer than when you do it for them. Patience is key to allowing them to develop these skills at their own pace without feeling rushed or pressured.
Incorporate play into self-care
Turn self-care tasks into fun, playful activities. For example, you could sing a “tidy-up song” while cleaning or pretend to race while getting dressed. This makes routines more engaging and encourages children to participate willingly.
Use adaptive tools
You could use child-friendly tools to help your child become more independent, like:
- easy-grip toothbrushes
- wide-handled cutlery
- Velcro shoes
These adaptive items make it easier for them to complete tasks on their own.
Celebrate small achievements
Celebrate every step towards independence, no matter how small. Whether it’s pulling on their socks or using a spoon, acknowledging these successes builds your child’s confidence and motivates them to keep practicing.
Top tips for developing self-care and independence (document)