Social skills

From the section: Supporting your child's development

Social skills

Developing social skills is difficult, even for adults.

There are many social rules that we all must learn to help us all to get along, and to learn how to manage in our society. Children will take time to learn and to follow the rules. The more they socialise and practise these skills, the better they will get; but remember, they will make mistakes along the way.

We often expect children to be able to share, take turnsand wait long before they are developmentally ready to do this. Your child will need lots of support from you, as an adult, to model these behaviours and to remind them of the rules.

The Togetherness (The Solihull Approach) guide to milestones will help you to understand emotional and development for the first five years.

Top tips on social skills

Create turn-taking opportunities

Use games or activities that encourage turn-taking, such as rolling a ball back and forth or playing simple board games. This teaches social communication skills like waiting for a turn in conversation.

Copy your child to help them start understanding social interaction 

The start of social interaction is copying each other. Watch what your child does and copy them, it may be their actions or sounds and see if they notice you copying. This is called mirroring and it helps develop social interactions 

Establish predictable routines

Routines help children feel safe and secure. Having predictable meal, nap, and playtimes reduces anxiety and it helps children understand what’s expected of them. 

Model social behaviour

Children often mirror the behaviour they see. If you model sharing, turn taking, waiting etc children will copy you. Draw attention to what you are doing i.e. say "I’m waiting for daddy to have his turn" 

Use visual aids for understanding social rules

You can use stop signs or closed signs if a child is not allowed in an area of the house. For example when someone is cooking in the kitchen you could have a wait card or my turn card 

Encourage simple social interaction

Gradually introduce your child to social situations, starting with short playtimes with one other child. Gentle introductions to small group activities or playdates can help them build confidence in social settings.

Social groups 

Attend stay and play groups or other social activities. It can feel difficult if your child has SEND, but they need to experience social activities to learn avoiding such groups can limit their opportunities to practice the skills they need.

Top tips on social skills (document)